You know how it is after you get married. Things change. You leave behind some people , you starting valuing some much more than you ever did before, you meet some others.
Which brings me to a set of people I have never mentioned on my blog.
I have been married for almost 8 months now and on the basis on my experience so far can thankfully say that I have been very very lucky.
My Mom in law is a house wife and a very nice lady. I speak to her almost each day but never in these 8 months has she ever said even one word that has hurt me any which way. And trust me that is really a very big thing. She is exceptionally beautiful, slim and very fair with lovely delicate features. Most interestingly, she is very broad minded.
One of the first things she told me when I came into the house as a brand new bride was this:
“People tell us Indian women to treat our husbands like Gods. Treat yours like one if he first begins to behave like one!”
I remember laughing like mad at this.
I have spent a couple of days with her when my husband was not at home. If I would get up anytime before 8 she would be horrified. She would insist that I sleep till atleast 9.
One of her neighbours warned her to not behave like this with me. Mom in law got really angry.
Very indignantly she told her friend that when my sis in law comes over, she sleeps for as long as she wants so why should not I do the same.
She is very different from my own mother. I mean both are nice women- genuinely kind and loving but of course they are different.
So suddenly, the day after I got married- I was the proud owner of two mothers- Ma, my mother and Mummy- Sid’s mom.
They get along well. Touch wood.
Yesterday they spent a whole day together and were planning to go watch ‘I have love storys’ together. That got me thinking. How different it would have been if my parents had some issues with my in laws. Had my laws been the mean kinds who taunt the daughter in law about the watch that the bride’s family did not give as part of gifts at the wedding.
And no, do no think all this does not happen now a days. It very much does. I know first hand that it does. I don’t know how I would deal with that.
So here is pic of Ma and Mummy. This pic was taken during my sangeet.
As usual I am missing Ma a lot but a regular reader of my blog will know that there is nothing new about that.